As i grow older, social pressure on the issue of marriage is becoming more intense. I am still single at 32 and yes i want to get married but i am likewise open to the possibility of single blessedness. In my age group, people either have 3 children or hurrying to get into the church line for their wedding bells. I too, sometimes feel that I should race against time and make my last-minute male shopping before my biological clock stops ticking. However, after several bumps on the road with a few men taking advantage of my predicament, I am finally discerning, why should I let society take control of my future? Marriage is something what we are expected to achieve in order to fulfill the law of nature, but it is definitely not the only matter that is essential in life.
Last weekend, I attended my cousin's engagement party. It seemed that two more marriages or wedding ceremonies would be taking place in the clan this year after my brother's wedding last June. My aunts were fussing me on when I would be getting married, being the eldest among the 42 grandchildren. They even joked on having me on a raffle draw and that if the awaited day would come, they would give their all-out support and greatly thank the guy for marrying me out.
On Facebook, my cousin Thersa made a bet with her brother-in-law that she would not be an old maid and that within two years, she would settle down in marriage.
I remember how I felt so pressured and scared that I would become a spinster. Out of desperation, i plunged into chat and met a variety of men. I fell in love with a few and ended up with a collection of broken heart pieces. The search was definitely not worth it.
A few years ago, during a reunion with the Pomar clan in Mabinay, i asked my good-looking uncle why he remained a bachelor at the age of 40. His response was, "Marriage is a choice." I understood that if he wanted to get married, he could, but took his time to find the right person of his choice.
Marriage is a vocation. It is not about time, popularity or status quo. It is how you will live your life with another person without the prospect of separation. It is not about shopping for a shirt and throwing it away when you no longer find it attractive or useful.
It is not that I do not want to marry. I just dont want to be in a haste and end up with regrets. I believe God has prepared something or someone for me. What is important now is to constantly live my life in a manner that is acceptable to God. When you become the best person that you can be, the right man will come at a right time.
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